Simply Me

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Starting Over …..

Who am I and why am I here?

Two years ago I decided I was going to become a Blogger. I started well, I think, but all too soon the wheels fell off. Things happened, things changed, good intentions went out the window and so what! Who cares, life happens and that IS life. 

I have continued following some Blogs and Facebook pages but to be honest, those “my life is just wonderful” blogs have started to irritate me. Yes, we are blessed in so many ways, we do have wonderful lives but we also have trauma, unhappiness, sadness, disappointment. That’s OK, that will happen – to everyone, no matter how perfectly glorious they profess thier lives to be.  I read one of my first posts two years ago, I had wandered what I was going to write about, what should the general theme be? “Motivation, Feel Good and Encouragement”, or maybe “Stories and Memories to last Forever”?  For some time I suppose, I have known that I should just write. Whatever I feel, whenever I feel and as long as I enjoy what I’m doing, that’s all that matters, that’s me, Simply Me!  It isn’t easy though. I am quite nervous, perhaps even petrified.  But I want to and I will do this.  

Why am I here?  Because I have the urge to write, but I’m still not too sure what. 

Who am I?  I am a fifty something year old wife, mom, daughter, sister, aunt, niece, friend who is probably still trying to find out who I really am.  In the meantime, I am trying to learn that you just never know what each day brings.  It’s good to let off steam, to be honest about how you feel, even when feeling down.  Enjoy the good times, get through the tough times and live in hope of the future.  There is no perfect life, there is just life and one has to get on with it.  Simple.


It’s the 1st of October …. 2015

“It’s the 1st of October!”, declared my hubby this morning.  The first day of a new month brings promise of all things new, renewed energy and most of all HOPE.

Today I decided to blog.  I’ve read a few and often think, “If they can, so can I.”  But what will I blog about?  This is going to be a journey of self dicovery in a sense, and by nature I am often uncertain, undecided, always preferring many choices and never quite deciding on only one, so here goes.

My blog name “22RedLetterDays” – “A red letter day is any day of special significance.  It’s roots are in classical antiquity; for instance, important days indicated in red in a calendar …” Wikipedia.  I deleted the first Blog name – far too plain and way too predictable – and spent some time thinking about me.  Who am I, what do I like, what is it that makes me, ME?  My favourite colour is red.  I love red, black and white and also purple.  One day I will wear red and purple and it will look great.  I am more of a classic person.  I like clean, simple lines for example a string of pearls rather than big, flashy baubles.  I am not extravagent, sometimes a little conservative.  I love red roses, stripes, dots, geometrical designs.  I do not like ethnic, earthy anything.  Professionally I am more formal than laid back, although flexible enough to adapt to the environment.

And so, in a roundabout way, I arrived at the name “22RedLetterDays”.

Be confident today, be happy, be open to change and something new, accept who you are, know your weaknesses as well as your strengths, stop comparing yourself with others and embrace everything that is uniquely you.  I recently overheard some say “Those that Matter, don’t Mind … Those that Mind, don’t Matter.”  Happy 1st day of the Month!

“Life is overflowing with the new. But it is necessary to empty out the old to make room for the new to enter.”~ Eileen Caddy – See more at:

Jealousy is a powerful tool. Use it.

Thank you Rian, your post is insightful and resonates with us all I suspect.

“Life is one big road with lots of signs. So when you riding through the ruts, don’t complicate your mind. Flee from hate, mischief and jealousy. Don’t bury your thoughts, put your vision to reality. Wake Up and Live!” ~ Bob Marley

Truth and Cake

What is your relationship to jealousy?

Do you shut down, reject people, beat yourself up, project your inadequacies onto others, talk smack?

Or do you get curious, poke at it, play with, dive into, even love your jealousy?

For most of my life, I did the former.

I would shut down when someone succeeded at something. I’d take it personally. I’d beat myself up: “You already had that idea. Why didn’t you act on it?”

The sting of jealousy felt too sharp for me to want to lean in any closer. I wasn’t “good enough.” I’d let myself down.

A world where jealousy is bad supposes something false: that there’s only one go round at success, one shot at an idea, only room for one bright, shiny person.

Which, of course, is a lie. (You know that, right?)

When you start poking at jealousy, some very useful information emerges.


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Teach What You Are Learning

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Day 4 on Day 7 : Count your Blessings … Simple as This!


Day 4 – Identify your Audience (I’m 3 days late with this Blogging assignment).

I have good reason.  On Day 4 I went through  a traumatic experience where my whole life flashed in front of me in a few minutes – the last couple of days have been tough.  I am truly blessed, Simply to be Me.

Who is my Audience?  I honestly have no idea at this stage.  I hope this will become clearer with time.  Today, my post is for anyone experiencing the same mixed emotions as myself – for whatever reason.  The recent trauma has left me angry, fearful and afraid, exhausted but also relieved, thankful and content with life.  Betwixt and Between, Highs and Lows, Happy and Sad.

On Day 5, driving alone in the car, possibly at the lowest of low when the spoken word song by Baz Luhrmann “Wear Sunscreen” was played on the radio.  I couldn’t help feeling that this had to be a profound message and a wave of peace came over me as I breathed deeply in the realisation that I am OK, time will heal.  Count your Blessings, enjoy the Moments and live, Simply Live!

Ladies and Gentleman,
Wear sunscreen.
If I could offer you only one tip for the future, sunscreen would be it.
The long term benefits of sunscreen have been proved by scientists, whereas the rest of my advice has no basis more reliable than my own meandering experience…
I will dispense this advice now.

Enjoy the power and beauty of your youth; oh nevermind; you will not understand the power and beauty of your youth until they have faded.
But trust me, in 20 years you’ll look back at photos of yourself and recall in a way you can’t grasp now how much possibility lay before you and how fabulous you really looked…
You’re not as fat as you Imagine.

Don’t worry about the future; or worry, but know that worrying is as effective as trying to solve an algebra equation by chewing bubblegum.
The real troubles in your life are apt to be things that never crossed your worried mind.
The kind that blindside you at 4pm on some idle Tuesday.

Do one thing everyday that scares you.


Don’t be reckless with other people’s hearts, don’t put up with people who are reckless with yours.


Don’t waste your time on jealousy;
Sometimes you’re ahead,
Sometimes You’re behind.
The race is long, and in the end, it’s only with yourself.

Remember the compliments you receive, forget the insults;
If you Succeed in doing this, tell me how.

Keep your old love letters, throw away your old bank statements.


Don’t feel guilty if you don’t know what you want to do with your
The most interesting people I know didn’t know at 22 what they wanted to do with their lives, some of the most interesting 40 year olds I know still don’t.

Get plenty of calcium.

Be kind to your knees, you’ll miss them when they’re gone.

Maybe you’ll marry, maybe you won’t, maybe you’ll have children, maybe you won’t, maybe you’ll divorce at 40, maybe you’ll dance the funky chicken on your 75th wedding anniversary.
Whatever you do, don’t Congratulate yourself too much or berate yourself either.
Your choices are half chance, so are everybody else’s.
Enjoy your body, Use it every way you can… Don’t be afraid of it, or what other people Think of it,
It’s the greatest instrument you’ll ever own…

Dance… even if you have nowhere to do it but in your own living room.

Read the directions, even if you don’t follow them.

Do NOT read beauty magazines, they will only make you feel ugly.

Brother and sister together we’ll make it through
Someday your spirit will take you and guide you there
I know you’ve been hurting, but I’ve been waiting to be there
For you.
And I’ll be there, just tell me now, whenever I can.
Everybody’s free.

Get to know your parents, you never know when they’ll be gone for good.

Be nice to your siblings;
They are the best link to your past and the people most likely to stick with you in the future.

Understand that friends come and go, but for the precious few you should hold on.
Work hard to bridge the gaps in geography and lifestyle because the older you get, the more you need the people you knew when you were young.

Live in New York City once, but leave before it makes you hard;
Live in Northern California once, but leave before it makes you soft.


Accept certain inalienable truths, prices will rise, politicians will Philander, you too will get old, and when you do you’ll fantasize that when you were young prices were reasonable, politicians were noble and children respected their elders.

Respect your elders.

Don’t expect anyone else to support you.
Maybe you have a trust fund, Maybe you have a wealthy spouse; but you never know when either one might run out.

Don’t mess too much with your hair, or by the time you’re 40, it will look 85.

Be careful whose advice you buy, but, be patient with those who supply it. Advice is a form of nostalgia, dispensing it is a way of fishing the past from the disposal, wiping it off, painting over the ugly parts and recycling it for more than it’s worth.

But trust me on the sunscreen …

Day 1 – Introducing myself to the World

Who am I?  Obviously my name is not Royal Red but I do quite like the mysterious ring to that … Scarlett O’Hara’s cousin?  Well, not quite so glamourous.  I am a working woman, a wife and mother of 3 amazing boys – 2 of them young men.  I have a loving, devoted and hardworking husband and we are exceptionally proud of our sons.  I can count my blessings. 

At home, I like to be creative and enjoy spending time doing some type of crafting or needlework. I often have more than one project on the go at the same time and my mind is constantly planning things I would like to do next.  Often, these don’t transpire as time just does not allow, but it’s good therapy neverthelesss.  

Why am I here?  For some time now I have had the urge to Blog, feeling certain that if others can so can I. To be honest, I have often thought that if I could choose anything I would really like to be, I would choose “Writer” or maybe “Artist”.  For me, the thought of being a Writer or an Artist conjures a mystical picture of self-expression, creativity and unlimited power.  This said, it hasn’t been so easy.  After starting my blog a month ago – my first post took almost an entire day to write – I haven’t written anything since.  Clearly, I need help and that’s why I am here.  

Why am I blogging publicly, rather than keeping a personal journal?  I am a rather private person and have never felt comfortable about keeping a diary or personal journal. This is probably where I have fallen shy of being able to write.  I am too cautious and critical of myself, and lack the confidence to do this.  

What topics will I write about?  This is going to be a journey of discovery. What would I be good at writing?    As I sit here quietly going through this assignmenet, I’m thinking “Motivation, Feel Good and Encouragement”, or maybe “Stories and Memories to last Forever”?

Who would I love to connect with via my blog?  Virtual friends with the same values and interests.

If I blog successfully throughout the next year, what would I hope to have accomplished?  My hope is to become more confident about writing. I would love to be able to write things which fellow bloggers would enjoy and find meaning from.  If I manage to blog successfully then I will truly feel as if I have achieved.  

Here’s to the start of this writing adventure. Who knows in which direction it will take us?


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